Interesting points from this thread:

She said she was an ally. Against my better judgement I decided to tell her what was on my mind (always a dangerous thing for a marginalized person to do). I told her I was experiencing structural homophobia at the job and that was not making me feel great.


She started off being outraged that I was experiencing homophobia and she said she was against homophobia. Then…she started crying and talking about how upset it made her that there was homophobia…so I had to spend the rest of that meeting consoling her.


But what happened the next week? Backlash. She decided that no, there wasn’t homophobia, the structure she worked for wasn’t homophobic. Maybe there were some incidents, but it wasn’t as widespread. And then I became the problem because I had said something and made her feel bad.

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